Validation is something I’ve learned to live without. Some people need affirmation, and that’s perfectly fine. In situations where the proper credit is not given, I’ll mention it and continue to move forward. I believe that the desire to be validated can hinder your growth.
Most people I know don’t realize how talented I am. A very small demographic knows what I am fully capable of, and that’s my doing. In the past, I’ve had relationships that would sour due to accolades I’d received; some would vocalize their disdain by saying ”…you’re always showing off…” while others would become dismissive. I began to dull my shine and decided I didn’t need validation.
In situations where I was a key or leading factor in achieving great success, and the recognition undeservingly went to someone else, I’d make my frustration known, not because of the need for validation but because the person who accepted it lied. I would then continue to proceed with the work. People would constantly ask me why I continue to put myself in these situations, and I would simply state, “…because the work needs to get done.”
I’ve learned that you should never dull your shine for others to gleam. I also learned that in some cases, the need for validation to people is like gas/alternative fuel source to a car; if you don’t have enough, you slow down and eventually stop moving.
