Divorce isn’t easy. Relationships take a lot of effort and energy to develop and maintain. So when a union ends, it can take a huge negative toll on all parties involved. While breaking up with someone that you believed you loved at one time is hard, it gets more challenging for those that have kids in the mix.
When you get a divorce from your partner, and you have no kids, it may be challenging to do, but you can cut all ties with one another sooner than later (well, that is if you don’t have to pay alimony). One or both parties can go on with their respective lives and eventually function as though their marriage never existed, but when you have kids with your ex, you are connected forever!
When a couple with kids divorces one another, they still have to (in most instances) co-parent. Effective co-parenting often involves coming to agreements on how you are going to raise your children. If your child is involved in theatre, sports, and other extra-curricular activities, most times, they want both parents there to support them. For birthday parties and some holidays, the kid(s) may wish to the both of their biological parents there.
When your children become older and have a family, they have new decisions to make. Your kid(s) now have to figure out what they want their holiday schedule to be. Your child may also have to decide with the recommendation of their parents.
No matter how you feel about your former spouse, if you have children together, you’ll always be connected. It’s up to both parents to be mature enough to co-parent for the sake of their children effectively. You have to be unselfish and put your kids first. Your children shouldn’t have to be burdened with whether or not they will make you upset because they invited your ex (their parent) to the Barbeque.
